We all come across times, when we have to choose the better way, have to take tough decisions…
What makes these decisions even more difficult is the fear of undesired outcomes, the fear of failure. What I have learnt from these tough times is that, the power of indecision is immense. It grows restlessness. So, never ever try to run from these situations, don’t add delays! Make it a point that you can’t run from decisions.
How to make effective decisions?
• Firstly list down all possible options.
• Think about your interests, not what the people will say.
• Believe in yourself.
• Look for pros and cons of each prospect.
• If you wish to take a risk, ensure that it’s worthy.
• Don’t surf internet till the time you are a bit clear or left up with only two options, as you might end up confusing yourself.
Now, I will share my secret way;
Play out with chits! You might find this unpractical but I am not saying you to choose the outcome that come, but it will tell you what your heart really wants. During childhood when I felt confused between my favorite things, I used to shuffle and pick paper chits. If I felt disappointed with the result I used to cheat, and pick the other chit. This is human nature. You tend to feel unhappy seeing an undesired option, and this comes up with the right answer…
These are the lines of my favorite poem, “The road not taken” by Robert Frost:
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Believe me when I say, “take the road less travelled by”, it will let you experiment and go different.
And, if you rank satisfaction high, don’t think about possible outcomes, if you would have chosen the other option.
Most importantly, don’t let your mind overrule your heart, your inner voice…